30 days, 30 posts, and 30 opportunities to dig into who I am! Every day I aim to answer these questions, in chronological order, as best I can. The 30 Day Genderqueer Challenge is taken from the tumblr Genderqueer Identities.
18) How does your gender factor into your future plans?
My gender is a constant reminder that I am different from a lot of other people. Even when I am wearing the most feminine thing in my closet, I always have a thought like, “These people don’t have any idea who I really am.” This makes me be very cautious about my presentation sometimes depending on where I am going and who I will be with. Sometimes I don’t give a shit, but one day, that might get me into trouble that I can’t easily get myself out of. I want to be able to work for and with people that don’t care about my gender to the point where they will discriminate against me or look down on me because of it. I have worked with people that give the impression of being open and accepting, but then give back-handed compliments like, “Why did you put all that make-up on, just to wear pants and a tie?” It’s frustrating and impossible to explain to a lot of people who have not gone through the classes I have to understand just how much the gender binary doesn’t exist and all these things that we push on people are utterly ridiculous. So in conclusion, I guess my gender really only affects, at this time, the kinds of jobs I want to have in the future and the kinds of people I want to work with. If an employer has a very strict dress code and cannot accept my gender presentation as it happens that day, then I probably should not be working for that individual.